Spirituality
A light on your heart…Archive for friendship
Note From God!!!

Suplication
I was there the day you were born
And I gave you special gifts to last a lifetime.
I touched you, made you smile,
Helped you grow and watched you take your First step.
I even reassured you that every
Thing would be okay when you lost your first tooth.
I saw you off on your first day of school…
And I lingered by your side the whole day.
I was there to console you every
time you cried and I held you every
time you fell and scraped your knees.
I was there every day all through the
years and I always strived to give you direction.
I helped you every step of the way
into adulthood, bringing you daily
gifts of inspiration, hope and love.
And I gave you trials so that you
could grow into the warm and
beautiful person that you are…but I
never abandoned you to them.
I’ve never for a single second, turned
My back on you when you needed
Me – even when you thought that
you didn’t need Me.
I heard you every time you spoke
and I answered every prayer though sometimes… for your best
interest, I didn’t answer them the
way you hoped I would.
I’m still with you through your joys,
your hopes, your tears, your
dreams… through the bad day, the
good days – through every day of your life.
And I will be there in the end to
give you comfort and see you safely
home where you will sit beside Me
in all the glory of heaven.
A Story…
NEED OF FRIENDS…
There is no one in the world who does not need friends. The more friends we have the more successful our lives will be. A learned man has said, “One who thinks that he does not need friends is like the simpleton who tells the sun that he does not care whether it rises or sets”.
It should also be remembered that it is necessary to be careful in the selection of friends. Making more friends does not mean that we should have firm relations with anyone and everyone. If we befriend unmannerly and lazy people, their bad habits will gradually affect us and we shall become lazy and worthless like them. This will make us lose our esteem in the eyes of others.
There is a well-known proverb: “A man is known by the company he keeps”. We should, therefore, befriend those people who are good mannered, pious and hard-working. Islam says that two companions should act as preachers for each other and each one of them should point out the shortcomings of the other. So by associating with such people we shall overcome our weaknesses and advance on the path of progress.
It should also not be forgotten that making friends is not sufficient; but it is also necessary to retain their friendship. This would be possible only when we behave with them properly and sincerely. Imam Ali (a) has said:
“A man who has no friends is very poor. And poorer than he, is he who cannot retain the friendship and loses his friends”.
A man is known by the company he keeps.
The Real Visage of the hijab (modest dress)?!

By: Martyr Ayatollah Murtuda Mutahhari
The fact is that the covering or its new expression, hijab, is not concerned with whether or not it is good for a woman to appear in society covered or uncovered . The point is whether or not a woman and a man’s need of her should be a limitless, free association or not.
Should a man have the right to satisfy his needs with every woman and in every place short of committing adultery?
Islam, which looks at the spirit of the problem, answers: No. Men are only allowed to satisfy their sexual desires with their legal wives within a marital situation based upon the laws of marriage which establish a series of heavy commitments. It is forbidden for men to have any physical relations with women they are not related to by marriage.
It is true that the question externally appears to be, “What should a woman do?” Must she leave her home covered or uncovered? That is, the person about whom the question is raised is a woman and the question is often expressed in very heart-rending tones, “Is it better for a woman to be free or condemned and imprisoned in the modest dress?” But something else lies at the root of the question. That is, should men be free to take sexual benefit from women in any way they choose short of committing adultery or not? That is, the one who benefits here is a man and not a woman or at least a man benefits more than a woman does. As Will Durant has said, “The mini-skirt is a blessing for everyone in the world except cloth merchants.”
So the depth of the question is whether or not the seeking of sexual pleasure should be limited to the family environment and legal wives or is the freedom of seeking sexual fulfillment something that should be satisfied in society at large? Islam defends the first theory. According to Islamic precepts, limiting sexual desires to the family environment and legal wives helps to maintain the mental health of the society. It strengthens the relationships between the members of the family and fosters the development of a perfect harmony between a husband and wife. As far as society is concerned, it keeps and preserves energies to be then used for social activities and it causes a woman to attain a higher position in the eyes of man.
The philosophy of the Islamic ‘covering’ depends on several things. Some of them are psychological and some relate to the home and the family. Others have sociological roots and some of them relate to raising the dignity of a woman and preventing her debasement.The modest dress in Islam is rooted in a more general and basic issue. That is, Islamic precepts aim at limiting all kinds of sexual enjoyment to the family and the marital environment within the bounds of marriage so that society is only a place for work and activity. It is opposite of the Western system of the present era which mixes work with sexual enjoyment. Islam separates these two environments completely.
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Friendly Letters (2)
Dear sister Wafa,
You have been a source of light and a means of guidance to me. I shall be strong enough to destroy pain… I’ll forget all my sufferings. With the weapon of faith, I shall break down many pains that spoiled my life. My awareness is back after a long absence. I am fully awake, making my way towards the Divine light and forgiveness.
“Oh my Lord, how great is Your mercy. How easy difficulties are, for Your sake! How wonderful is struggle, for Your pleasure! How sweet bitterness is to get near You. No aim is worthy of struggle, but Yours. Oh God, despite troubles, I find happiness in my striving towards You. However narrow this room is, I enjoy the horizons of Faith, praying to You. Oh my Lord, how wonderful it is to get free of these earthly chains, setting out towards You…! Oh God! I seek nothing but Your pleasure, I need nothing but Your forgiveness. I tread only towards Your orchard. Oh my Lord, this life is nothing but efforts for your sake. My soul, Oh God, is full of hope in Your forgiveness. It longs for Your bounties and waits for Your pleasure…Oh God, this hardship is only a means of bringing me nearer to You…Oh God, my tears are for Your sake, Oh God, how great my need of Your pleasure is…!”
Finally, dear sister, I confess my gratitude to you for all your help.
Raja
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Dear sister Raja,
How wonderful for one to place one’s hopes in Allah the Almighty. Such hopes make one smile amid tears and laugh despite suffering. Hope of Allah’s pleasure and forgiveness changes darkness within oneself into a bright light reflected on one’s face. Such hopes help the believers to tolerate the hardships without despair or retreat. They make the bitter taste of life, sweet, and heal wounds…Imam Ali (A.S.) refers to this when he describes the believers. He says, “…their bodies are on earth, but their souls are attached to the sublime world…” How difficult life is, for one who does not seek the source of hope! How hard it is for one to tread difficult roads without the help of Divine Guidance! Faith is, dear sister, a paradise full of shady trees for one seeking refuge from poisonous life. Faith is a spring of water that can never dry up. It is man’s provision in this life and the Hereafter. Keep on seeking Allah’s mercy.
May Allah keep you safe.
Wafa
Telling Lies!
‘Anas-ibn-Mlaik narrates from the Messenger of Allah [s] who said: “Accept six things from me, then I will accept (and guarantee) the entrance of Heaven for you:
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When you speak, tell no lies.
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When you promise, do not break it.
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When you are trusted (by others), be honest.
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Lower your eyes (from committing sin).
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Guard your modesty.
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Hold your hands and tongues.
…who be loved!

A long time ago, a girl named Li-Li got married and went to live with her husband and mother-in-law.
In a very short time, Li-Li found that she couldn’t get along with her mother-in-law at all.
Their personalities were very different, and Li-Li was angered by many of her mother-in-law’s
habits. In addition, she criticized Li-Li constantly.
Days passed days, and weeks passed weeks. Li-Li and her mother-in-law never stopped arguing
and fighting. But what made the situation even worse was that, according to ancient Chinese
tradition, Li-Li had to bow to her mother-in-law and obey her every wish. All the anger and
unhappiness in the house was causing the poor husband great distress. Finally, Li-Li could not
stand her mother-in-law’s bad temper and dictatorship any longer, and she decided to do
something about it. Li-Li went to see her father’s good friend, Mr. Huang, who sold herbs. She told
him the situation and asked if he would give her some poison so that she could solve the problem
once and for all.
Mr. Huang thought for awhile, and finally said, Li-Li, I will help you solve your problem, but you
must listen to me and obey what I tell you.
Li-Li said, “Yes, Mr. Huang, I will do whatever you tell me to do.”
Mr. Huang went into the back room, and returned in a few minutes with a package of herbs. He told
Li-Li, “You can’t use a quick-acting poison to get rid of your mother-in-law, because that would
cause people to become suspicious. Therefore, I have given you a number of herbs that will slowly
build up poison in her body. Every other day prepare some pork or chicken and put a little of these
herbs in her serving. Now, in order to make sure that nobody suspects you when she dies, you
must be very careful to act very friendly towards her.
Don’t argue with her, obey her every wish, and treat her like a queen.”
Li-Li was so happy. She thanked Mr. Huang and hurried home to start her plot of murdering her
mother-in-law.
Weeks went by, and months went by, and every other day, Li-Li served the specially treated food to
her mother-in-law. She remembered what Mr. Huang had said about avoiding suspicion, so she
controlled her temper, obeyed her mother-in-law, and treated her like her own mother. After six
months had passed, the whole household had changed. Li-Li had practiced controlling her temper
so much that she found that she almost never got mad or upset.
She hadn’t had an argument in six months with her mother-in-law, who now seemed much kinder
and easier to get along with.
The mother-in-law’s attitude toward Li-Li changed, and she began to love Li-Li like her own
daughter. She kept telling friends and relatives that Li-Li was the best daughter-in-law one could
ever find. Li-Li and her mother-in-law were now treating each other like a real mother and
daughter. Li-Li’s husband was very happy to see what was happening.
One day, Li-Li came to see Mr. Huang and asked for his help again. She said, “Dear Mr. Huang,
please help me to keep the poison from killing my mother-in-law! She’s changed into such a nice
woman, and I love her like my own mother. I do not want her to die because of the poison I gave
her.”
Mr. Huang smiled and nodded his head. “Li-Li, there’s nothing to worry about. I never gave you any
poison. The herbs I gave you were vitamins to improve her health. The only poison was in your
mind and your attitude toward her, but that has been all washed away by the love which you gave
to her.”
MORAL: Friends, have you ever realized that how you treat others is exactly how they will treat you?THE GOLDEN RULE: The person who loves others will also be loved
The Value of friendship!

Imam Ali said:
Unfortunate is he who cannot gain a few sincere friends during his life and more unfortunate is the one who has gained them and then lost them (through his deeds).
